mr. nice guy :).

it’s taken me some time to really sit with this and figure out what I wanted to say this week and come from a place of sincerity and objectivity. I think one of the most important lessons that I continue to teach myself is that being a nice guy is something that can only hurt you 

somewhere along the line, it must have worked for me but as I continue to grow up, it has stopped serving me.

I really want to differentiate the difference between being nice and being great.

being nice sucks to be honest. it’s only led to me not getting my needs met and that’s only because nice guys put others’ needs before their own and then it leads to those same guys being frustrated for not getting the things that they want. nice guys take up little space and don’t fill the space that they’re in with the fear that they will disturb others.

to get where you want to go, you’re going to need to get uncomfortable being in that space where nothing feels great, but with more time and experience, you learn how to manage yourself in those moments so that you can operate.

great men have to be able to live in that space in my head. how could you protect what you love if you’re passive or not able to stand on what you’re feeling. you might even get blown around by the world, never able to sink your roots in and grow if all you do is worry about others and what they think.

from my first - hand experience, being the nicest guy just lead me to countless frustration and a fear that if I were to expand outside of my comfort zone, I would be met with resistance from the world. I have an idea where that stems from, but it’s not accurate to my world - view anymore.

there’s so many good books that I’ve read (alongside the application of those words) and great friends that have helped me step into who I need to be. idk who reads this but if you ever need any resources, I’m always a text away.

take care of yourself team.

from the chateau.

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